There are Four Common types of children when it comes to their learning and development not only as an athlete, but as a student in all areas of life. Identifying this is imperative to their success, as well as yours as a parent. Although these qualities will shift over the years, it is always good to know when to push, when to hold back, when to inspire, and when to guide.
Is your child quiet, shy, and lacking in self confidence? Typically, these children truly lack DIRECTION, but tend to shy from motivational tactics. Soft, mellow toned, and non-confrontational speech go a long way with these kids. They do not enjoy being singled out in front of a group, but thrive when being directed privately away from the group.
Does your child have ALL the abilities, yet you may consider them lazy? Often, children in this category blossom early and succeed at a rapid pace, and when success is observed early, motivation to continually surpass their peers dies down. How many times have you seen the kids in 5th grade blowing away the competition, only to be surpassed by the quiet and shy kid late in middle school? I’ve seen it hundreds of times! It’s always important to look toward an outside source to help INSPIRE these children. Disinterest in sports may set in from parents being over-pressuring, and discourage success later in life.
Let me guess, your child is highly skilled, and needs no attention to do the hard work, right!? Although these kids aren’t the norm, it is extremely important to DELEGATE a load of responsibilities to them, empowering them to make decisions that could accelerate their development. They have the ability to be challenged and pushed, but at their own pace. If they show disinterest, it may be a clear sign that they are burning out.
Willing to work, but not the best? Fear not! I wish the majority of kids were like this. The first child we spoke often suffers from “early to ripen, early to rotten” syndrome. Children in this category, however, learn to deal with adversity, and simply need GUIDANCE from an outside source to improve their skills. It is important not to mistaken your goals with their goals. Do THEY want to work hard, or do YOU want them to work hard? Keep the goals simple and attainable, and applaud any and all success along the way.